I am a mom of three and this year my oldest child, Greta, entered fourth grade. Well, in fourth grade in my county, kids start getting grades. The irony is that my child did not really understand what this meant and when she came home with a 64% on her first test with nonchalance in her eyes, my husband and I had to sit down and explain what studying meant, tests, grades, which lead us to….college. She was scared and shocked and began to cry. I hated having to break the news that this was training ground for her future, but I also felt like she needed to know what grades meant for where she would end up. I felt conflicted – both disappointed and stressed.
I am the type of mom that prides herself of letting her kids bloom and grow towards their own interests and to me, this means free play, a gaggle of friends in and out of our house, lessons in guitar and quitting swim team after two years when it became tainted with too much competition. But, what about GRADES?! My job is also to help my kids along the way in every aspect and so we support her with tutors and resources at school. Grades go up. Phew. But, what about this ideal of wanting to treat my kids as special snowflakes with their own path?
I found the answer is this AMAZING TED Talk. I love listening to TED and think they are little pieces of mined gold, so important and useful for real life. If you are a parent, this clip is so worth your time. If you live in a competitive area as I do and are stressed and confused, this is worth a close listen. Don’t miss this one. 14 minutes of your time could change you perspective and calm your nerves like it did mine. Enjoy.